Common Sense Tools for the Friend of Someone Who is Brainwashed!

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Most of us know or have known someone we care about who has come under the influence of a perpetrator using him/her for self-serving purposes. Very smart, educated, healthy people can, for some unknown, reason come under the spell of opportunistic, toxic, and insecure people. It is very puzzling for an observer of this phenomena […]

Codependent or Loving? Part II

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Remember our question from Part One: How do I know if I am acting codependent or loving? Also, let’s review our definitions of “codependent” and “loving”: Love: An intense feeling of deep affection. For the purpose of this article, we will include some more distinctions of love: Brave Kind Trusting Codependency: Codependency, for the purpose of this […]

How to Get the Best Out of Your 12-Step Meeting!

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Attending a support group can be a very positive part of your recovery plan, as long as you understand what is healthy and what is dysfunctional. Let’s look at a few qualities of support groups and what happens when things get out of balance… Similarities vs Enmeshment When I join a support group and find […]

Say No to Abusive Relationships Forever!

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Unfortunately, when you grow up with emotional or physical abuse your body can wire love and abuse together and it think’s that is normal. Some people who grew up with abuse have the ability and resilience to say NEVER again. Often we find if there was one person who provided unconditional love the child can […]

The Abusive Marriage – What Happened to Me?

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In order to heal from an abusive marriage, it is important to understand what happened. The following are some scenarios and tactics of the perpetrator used to keep you under his/her thumb. See if you can identify any you recognize and let’s see if we can unravel this abusive puzzle. The first scenario will be […]

How To Beat a Sociopath at His Own Dating Game!

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Read First Sociopaths Are Charming, Manipulative, and Fantastic in Bed Remember Sociopaths are opportunists and you are at risk for being that opportunity for him. I need five commitments from you if you want to avoid the wake of destruction that comes from dating a Sociopath. 1. Commitment to your Heart: Healing a broken heart takes […]

Who is a Sociopath?

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Sociopaths/Psychopaths are fun, exciting, seductive, charismatic, impulsive, sexy AND unfortunately individuals diagnosed with anti-social personality disorder. What does this mean to you? After you have been drawn into their world, you are going to find: They don’t keep agreements. They have a disregard for the law and any rules. They lie, are deceitful, can use […]

Conflict Resolution: How To Approach And Stop Avoiding!

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If you have been traumatized by conflict, you may avoid it at all cost. Unfortunately, that can lead to some pretty damaging behavior that puts you more at risk physically, emotionally, and financially, than the conflict itself.     Let’s look at some guidelines to resolve conflict with dignity and safety so you can look […]

Say No to Killing!

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“Whenever one person stands up and says, “Wait a minute, this is wrong,” it helps other people do the same.” Gloria Steinem Wouldn’t it be nice if we lived in a world where everyone had a strong moral compass? How safe would we all feel if everyone followed the golden rule and treated others, as […]

 
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