Sex and Codependents: What Could Possibly Go Wrong?

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So many women I interviewed when writing my book reported saying yes to sex just to get the sex over with and have the person go away. Others reported saying yes to sex to have the person like them. Others reported gaining weight so they wouldn’t have to say no to dating and sex. Many […]

Codependent or Loving? Part II

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Remember our question from Part One: How do I know if I am acting codependent or loving? Also, let’s review our definitions of “codependent” and “loving”: Love: An intense feeling of deep affection. For the purpose of this article, we will include some more distinctions of love: Brave Kind Trusting Codependency: Codependency, for the purpose of this […]

Resiliency: A Gift Of Divorce

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I can remember years ago wondering if there was a bush I could hide under to stop the life lessons that were pounding me all at once. Forget bad things come in threes, this was multiple of threes. Most of us have had times in our lives where we want to yell “uncle”. Well throw […]

Infidelity in Your Marriage Stage IV

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“Cheating on a good person is like throwing away a diamond and picking up a rock”.  In Stage IV the focus will be on reinventing yourself. Now you are living your life either as a single/parent or a couple healing from the betrayal in your marriage. When you are successful in this healing process, you […]

Infidelity in Your Marriage Stage III

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In my first article Stage I, we addressed the challenges of confirming the infidelity, the boundaries I recommended you set, and then the two possible scenarios which can result from those boundaries. In my second article about Stage II we discussed the first steps of the two scenarios. Scenario I is the decision to stay […]

5 Reasons You Need a Backbone to Divorce

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No one plans on getting divorced when they get married, and yet that is a possible outcome for some. If you have spent your life mastering people pleasing, always saying yes, being diplomatic, and putting everyone else’s needs before yours, you will suffer tremendously if you are confronted with going through a divorce. The following […]

Ways Divorced Parents Abandon Their Children

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As we know from previous discussions about divorce, children are innocent victims and often find themselves on a road filled with emotional land mines. When a child loses his in-tact family good, bad, or ugly as the family may be, he experiences abandonment. However the family system has been set up, the system is no […]

Healthy Communication Post- Divorce

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Divorce is one of those life lessons that can derail us for a long time or produce a breakdown that leads to many breakthroughs. It is really our choice on whether we want to use our divorce to stagnant or grow. You may be sitting thinking, “I didn’t ask for this, I didn’t do anything […]

My Divorce is Final! (It sure doesn’t feel that way!)

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If you have followed my guidelines including the most important, “fight for your marriage” and you find yourself divorced, it is time to reinvent yourself. If you have had an amicable divorce and you both are smart enough to know everyone’s recovery will be better if everyone lands on their feet, Congrats! Your first year […]

The Dark Side of Holidays and How to Make Them Light!

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The divorce is final and now we have the challenge of the first year. The first year after your divorce and every year thereafter is going to contain holidays. As with all of our challenges in life, it is never the challenge, it is always our perception of the challenge. Years ago when I was […]

 
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