Ways Divorced Parents Abandon Their Children

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As we know from previous discussions about divorce, children are innocent victims and often find themselves on a road filled with emotional land mines. When a child loses his in-tact family good, bad, or ugly as the family may be, he experiences abandonment. However the family system has been set up, the system is no […]

The Dark Side of Holidays and How to Make Them Light!

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The divorce is final and now we have the challenge of the first year. The first year after your divorce and every year thereafter is going to contain holidays. As with all of our challenges in life, it is never the challenge, it is always our perception of the challenge. Years ago when I was […]

Your Child is not your Messenger! (by: Dr. Anne Brown PhD, RNCS)

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One would think after going through a difficult, and many times nasty divorce from a contentious (narcissistic, borderline, psychopathic, or sociopathic for example) partner he/she might be done with you and want to move on. You will probably find this will not be the case especially if there are children involved. One reason is the […]

Grow up Mom and Dad!! (by: Anne Brown, PhD, RN CS)

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Mom and Dad, what do you think it is like for me 3′-4′ high weighing in at 90-100lbs when I hear the “our family is getting divorced” conversation? I think the way things happen in life is somehow two people get together and create a family with little people like me growing up trying to […]

Backbone Parenting: Parent or Friend?

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“Children are educated by what the grown-up is and not by his talk.” Carl Jung   Parent: according to Webster’s dictionary, means a person who brings up and cares for another.   Let’s think of our children as an empty vessel. The vessel, which we will say is the child’s individuality, is empty and needs to […]

Backbone Tools: From Codependency to Dignity

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Backbone Tools: From Codependency to Dignity If you grew up in a family with lots of dysfunction e.g. alcohol, anger, illness physical or mental, Borderline/narcissistic (it is all about me) or any other phenomena other than adult people being normal loving parents to their children you may have developed the symptoms of codependency. Quick test […]

 
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