Sex and Codependents: What Could Possibly Go Wrong?

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So many women I interviewed when writing my book reported saying yes to sex just to get the sex over with and have the person go away. Others reported saying yes to sex to have the person like them. Others reported gaining weight so they wouldn’t have to say no to dating and sex. Many […]

Common Sense Tools for the Friend of Someone Who is Brainwashed!

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Most of us know or have known someone we care about who has come under the influence of a perpetrator using him/her for self-serving purposes. Very smart, educated, healthy people can, for some unknown, reason come under the spell of opportunistic, toxic, and insecure people. It is very puzzling for an observer of this phenomena […]

Codependency and Narcissists: Let’s Make Something Go Right! (Part II)

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In Part I, we discussed how the codependent is a perfect victim for the narcissist. We discussed our working definition of codependency: a system of distortions that exists on a continuum. Codependents learn personality traits that interfere with knowing one’s self and others. Codependents take care of others, often ignoring or tolerating their abuse, avoiding […]

Codependency and Contentious Times (Part II)

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In Part I, we identified some areas of concern for the codependent during these contentious times. Now let’s look at some possible tools for the codependent to use. If you haven’t done your codependent work, now is the perfect time to begin. With social media, you can practice taking a stand for what is important […]

Codependent or Loving? Part II

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Remember our question from Part One: How do I know if I am acting codependent or loving? Also, let’s review our definitions of “codependent” and “loving”: Love: An intense feeling of deep affection. For the purpose of this article, we will include some more distinctions of love: Brave Kind Trusting Codependency: Codependency, for the purpose of this […]

The Underbelly of Being Nice

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Why do people fight so hard to be sweet, nice, and accommodating, rather than honest, genuine, and authentic? It is a great question. Cultures are set up and rewards are given if you follow the rules: always say yes, agree to everything, be nice, don’t rock the boat, and tell people things you think will […]

Recovery With a Capital R!

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Recovery is not something you just fall into because you stopped your addiction. It is imperative that you view Recovery as Active, Alive, Constantly Changing, a Verb…and something you never take for granted. Yes; there are simplistic things you can do (e.g. eat healthy, exercise, attend meetings, avoid triggers, go to work), but unless you really […]

Top Five New Year’s Resolutions To Wake Up America​

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It is 2016 and we are seriously off track! 1. Delete Hate Today, beginning today, please, we must all stop saying, writing, cheering, promoting, and engaging in hate. It is such a sign of fear, ignorance, insecurity, prejudice, and an outdated belief. We need different ideas, backgrounds, beliefs, and traditions in order to be better […]

How To Beat a Sociopath at His Own Dating Game!

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Read First Sociopaths Are Charming, Manipulative, and Fantastic in Bed Remember Sociopaths are opportunists and you are at risk for being that opportunity for him. I need five commitments from you if you want to avoid the wake of destruction that comes from dating a Sociopath. 1. Commitment to your Heart: Healing a broken heart takes […]

Who is a Sociopath?

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Sociopaths/Psychopaths are fun, exciting, seductive, charismatic, impulsive, sexy AND unfortunately individuals diagnosed with anti-social personality disorder. What does this mean to you? After you have been drawn into their world, you are going to find: They don’t keep agreements. They have a disregard for the law and any rules. They lie, are deceitful, can use […]

 
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