Say No to Killing!

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“Whenever one person stands up and says, “Wait a minute, this is wrong,” it helps other people do the same.” Gloria Steinem Wouldn’t it be nice if we lived in a world where everyone had a strong moral compass? How safe would we all feel if everyone followed the golden rule and treated others, as […]

Denial– Take a Whack at Yours Today!

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“ You will never cross the ocean until you have the courage to lose sight of the shore.” Christopher Columbus Denial is a mechanism we use consciously or unconsciously to alter reality, usually to pretend it is better than it is. We don’t want to see aspects of life for which we have no solution […]

The Agony of Saying No!

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“Don’t give up! The beginning is always the hardest!” What stands in the way of you saying No? For some of us, just having the awareness starts us on a healthy path. We can begin to interrupt the automatic pattern of immediately saying Yes. We find tools to trick our body into saying nothing versus […]

Strong Leaders need Strong Minds!

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(We all need Strong Minds!) “Unless you try to do something beyond what you have mastered you will never grow.” Ralph Waldo Emerson The most important asset one can have is a strong mind. Forget all the material things many think are so important and would be lost without; a strong mind is really what we […]

In America You Are Allowed To Say NO!!!!!

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 “Two things define you; your patience when you have nothing, and your attitude when you have everything.” In my article on March 2, 2014 and chapter two in my book Backbone Power The Science of Saying No, I speak about the importance of being able to say No when you mean No. After listening to Elliot Rodger’s horrific video, I […]

Backbone Power

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“If you don’t stand for something you will fall for anything.” Gordon A Eadie Why do I need a backbone? I just have my simple little life. I don’t aspire to be famous. Hmmm! Everyone’s simple little life is going to be given an opportunity to take a stand for something, someone, some passion, some principle, […]

ABUSE!! And what would you do??

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The Grand Jury file on reports filed against Sandusky in the Penn State Sex abuse scandal illustrates some of the most egregious rationalizing (right up there with the Catholic Church’s sexual abuse of children) in our country. There are some people involved who attempted to do the right thing and according to the report there are those […]

Bring Back Our Girls

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“You must do the things you think you can’t do.” Eleanor Roosevelt There are women all over the world risking their lives to become educated. We must support them. How can we do that? We must begin to lift the veil of unconsciousness. We can’t pretend the emotional/physical abuse that is happening in our world isn’t happening. […]

Domestic Abuse

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“Never make yourself feel like nothing, to make someone else feel like everything!” Rationalizing has to be prevalent when there is Domestic Abuse because how else could you convince yourself to stay. First you have to recognize that you are being emotionally, physically and or sexually abused. In my book p.20 I give you conversations to recognize […]


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“You are confined only by the walls you build yourself!” Rationalizing is something we do when we don’t want to face the truth. Rationalizing is something we use to make what just happen ok in our eyes. Rationalizing is a tool for survival when things are too bad to survive. Rationalizing helps us cope when […]