Sex and Codependents: What Could Possibly Go Wrong?

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Love the article? Share it.. So many women I interviewed when writing my book reported saying yes to sex just to get the sex over with and have the person go away. Others reported saying yes to sex to have the person like them. Others reported gaining weight so they wouldn’t have to say no […]

Common Sense Tools for the Friend of Someone Who is Brainwashed!

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Love the article? Share it.. Most of us know or have known someone we care about who has come under the influence of a perpetrator using him/her for self-serving purposes. Very smart, educated, healthy people can, for some unknown, reason come under the spell of opportunistic, toxic, and insecure people. It is very puzzling for […]

Common Sense Ways to Stay Friends With a Victim

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Love the article? Share it.. Are you frustrated with someone you care about who appears to be the victim of a perpetrator? Do you find yourself getting angry for this person? We all have examples of these situations and we often struggle with what to say, how much time to spend with the victim, and […]

Codependency and Narcissists: Let’s Make Something Go Right! (Part II)

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Love the article? Share it.. In Part I, we discussed how the codependent is a perfect victim for the narcissist. We discussed our working definition of codependency: a system of distortions that exists on a continuum. Codependents learn personality traits that interfere with knowing one’s self and others. Codependents take care of others, often ignoring […]

Codependency and Narcissists: What Could Possibly Go Wrong? (Part I)

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Love the article? Share it.. For this discussion, we are going to stick with our understanding of codependency as a system of distortions that exists on a continuum. Codependents learn personality traits that interfere with knowing one’s self and others. The people-pleasing aspect of codependency might drive the ignoring of who we are trying to […]

Codependency and Contentious Times (Part II)

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Love the article? Share it.. In Part I, we identified some areas of concern for the codependent during these contentious times. Now let’s look at some possible tools for the codependent to use. If you haven’t done your codependent work, now is the perfect time to begin. With social media, you can practice taking a […]

Codependency and Contentious Times – Part I

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Love the article? Share it.. Probably the one area we can all agree is the idea that “these are contentious times.” What do contentious times in our country (if not the world), mean to the codependent? First let’s go back to our definition of codependency: Codependency is learned personality traits that negatively affect knowing one’s self […]

Codependent or Loving? Part II

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Love the article? Share it.. Remember our question from Part One: How do I know if I am acting codependent or loving? Also, let’s review our definitions of “codependent” and “loving”: Love: An intense feeling of deep affection. For the purpose of this article, we will include some more distinctions of love: Brave Kind Trusting Codependency: Codependency, […]

The Underbelly of Being Nice

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Love the article? Share it.. Why do people fight so hard to be sweet, nice, and accommodating, rather than honest, genuine, and authentic? It is a great question. Cultures are set up and rewards are given if you follow the rules: always say yes, agree to everything, be nice, don’t rock the boat, and tell […]

What Our Athletes Can Teach Us About Recovery!

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Love the article? Share it..  Last summer 2016 in particular, we had some pretty spectacular athletic competitions in England, France, and more recently, Rio. Whether you follow cycling, tennis or any of the competitions that took place in Rio, it is hard not to be inspired and learn from some of the stories. Stories and Goals First, […]

 
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