The Underbelly of Being Nice

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Love the article? Share it.. Why do people fight so hard to be sweet, nice, and accommodating, rather than honest, genuine, and authentic? It is a great question. Cultures are set up and rewards are given if you follow the rules: always say yes, agree to everything, be nice, don’t rock the boat, and tell […]

What Our Athletes Can Teach Us About Recovery!

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Love the article? Share it..  Last summer 2016 in particular, we had some pretty spectacular athletic competitions in England, France, and more recently, Rio. Whether you follow cycling, tennis or any of the competitions that took place in Rio, it is hard not to be inspired and learn from some of the stories. Stories and Goals First, […]

How to Get the Best Out of Your 12-Step Meeting!

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Love the article? Share it.. Attending a support group can be a very positive part of your recovery plan, as long as you understand what is healthy and what is dysfunctional. Let’s look at a few qualities of support groups and what happens when things get out of balance… Similarities vs Enmeshment When I join […]

Recovery With a Capital R!

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Love the article? Share it.. Recovery is not something you just fall into because you stopped your addiction. It is imperative that you view Recovery as Active, Alive, Constantly Changing, a Verb…and something you never take for granted. Yes; there are simplistic things you can do (e.g. eat healthy, exercise, attend meetings, avoid triggers, go […]

Reinventing the Concepts of Recovery

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Love the article? Share it.. Wouldn’t it be great if we could wave our magic wand and no one would relapse? Until we understand more about addictions (and we have work to do there), we will have to tackle relapse in other ways. Let’s look at a couple of possible breakdowns that might lead to […]

Infidelity in Your Marriage Stage IV

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Love the article? Share it.. “Cheating on a good person is like throwing away a diamond and picking up a rock”.  In Stage IV the focus will be on reinventing yourself. Now you are living your life either as a single/parent or a couple healing from the betrayal in your marriage. When you are successful […]

Infidelity in Your Marriage Stage III

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Love the article? Share it.. In my first article Stage I, we addressed the challenges of confirming the infidelity, the boundaries I recommended you set, and then the two possible scenarios which can result from those boundaries. In my second article about Stage II we discussed the first steps of the two scenarios. Scenario I […]

 
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