Before you say, “YES” to something, ask yourself, “What am I saying NO to?”
Have you ever said to yourself, I am having a bad day! What is that about? When we don’t take care of ourselves, we fill that compartment called resentment and one day watch out, it explodes. The explosion may have nothing to do with what just happened and everything to do with what has been happening.
Start today with a new program that is guaranteed to have you take better care of yourself and thus not fill up the resentment container. As one man reported, “the minute I started saying I don’t know vs.yes to everything my life changed.” He was able to go home and check in with himself, allow the truth to be seen and most of the time he didn’t want to do what he would have in the past agreed to do. It was easier to pick up the phone and simply say, Thanks for asking, I am not able to ……whatever he had been asked. If he said yes he had to do it without resentment. Just this one little exercise can begin to change your life for the better. Say No when you mean No and yes only when you mean Yes and you can start with I don’t know if necessary.
The other assignment I am going to give you is to stop hearing request where no request was made. “I am so overwhelmed with my paperwork,” is NOT a request for you to jump in and do someone else’s paperwork (particularly when your own paperwork is overwhelming you and we all know you would NEVER impose on someone by asking them to help you). “I am short on cash” is NOT a request for you to hand over your cash. You make it easy for takers to “take” when they don’t even have to make a direct request of you to get what they want. Stop hearing requests when someone is “whining”, just let him or her”whine”.
“Trying to please everyone is a recipe for stress, misery and frustration!”
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