Common Sense Tools for the Friend of Someone Who is Brainwashed!

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Most of us know or have known someone we care about who has come under the influence of a perpetrator using him/her for self-serving purposes. Very smart, educated, healthy people can, for some unknown, reason come under the spell of opportunistic, toxic, and insecure people. It is very puzzling for an observer of this phenomena […]

How to Get the Best Out of Your 12-Step Meeting!

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Attending a support group can be a very positive part of your recovery plan, as long as you understand what is healthy and what is dysfunctional. Let’s look at a few qualities of support groups and what happens when things get out of balance… Similarities vs Enmeshment When I join a support group and find […]

Recovery With a Capital R!

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Recovery is not something you just fall into because you stopped your addiction. It is imperative that you view Recovery as Active, Alive, Constantly Changing, a Verb…and something you never take for granted. Yes; there are simplistic things you can do (e.g. eat healthy, exercise, attend meetings, avoid triggers, go to work), but unless you really […]

How To Beat a Sociopath at His Own Dating Game!

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Read First Sociopaths Are Charming, Manipulative, and Fantastic in Bed Remember Sociopaths are opportunists and you are at risk for being that opportunity for him. I need five commitments from you if you want to avoid the wake of destruction that comes from dating a Sociopath. 1. Commitment to your Heart: Healing a broken heart takes […]

Robin Williams

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“There are wounds that never show on the body that are deeper and more hurtful than anything that bleeds.” Laurell K Hamilton Mistral’s Kiss From the outside looking in, it is easy to say, but he had so much why couldn’t he find the help he needed. From the inside looking out, a lot of the […]

Say No to Killing!

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“Whenever one person stands up and says, “Wait a minute, this is wrong,” it helps other people do the same.” Gloria Steinem Wouldn’t it be nice if we lived in a world where everyone had a strong moral compass? How safe would we all feel if everyone followed the golden rule and treated others, as […]

Denial– Take a Whack at Yours Today!

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“ You will never cross the ocean until you have the courage to lose sight of the shore.” Christopher Columbus Denial is a mechanism we use consciously or unconsciously to alter reality, usually to pretend it is better than it is. We don’t want to see aspects of life for which we have no solution […]

The Agony of Saying No!

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“Don’t give up! The beginning is always the hardest!” What stands in the way of you saying No? For some of us, just having the awareness starts us on a healthy path. We can begin to interrupt the automatic pattern of immediately saying Yes. We find tools to trick our body into saying nothing versus […]

In America You Are Allowed To Say NO!!!!!

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 “Two things define you; your patience when you have nothing, and your attitude when you have everything.” In my article on March 2, 2014 and chapter two in my book Backbone Power The Science of Saying No, I speak about the importance of being able to say No when you mean No. After listening to Elliot Rodger’s horrific video, I […]

Backbone Power

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“If you don’t stand for something you will fall for anything.” Gordon A Eadie Why do I need a backbone? I just have my simple little life. I don’t aspire to be famous. Hmmm! Everyone’s simple little life is going to be given an opportunity to take a stand for something, someone, some passion, some principle, […]