Category: Self-Help
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Rationalizing
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“You are confined only by the walls you build yourself!” Rationalizing is something we do when we don’t want to face the truth. Rationalizing is something we use to make what just happen ok in our eyes. Rationalizing is a tool for survival when things are too bad to survive. Rationalizing helps us cope when…
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Say No to Bad Days!
Before you say, “YES” to something, ask yourself, “What am I saying NO to?” Have you ever said to yourself, I am having a bad day! What is that about? When we don’t take care of ourselves, we fill that compartment called resentment and one day watch out, it explodes. The explosion may have nothing to do with what just happened…
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Drama
“Being honest may not get you a lot of friends but it will get you the right ones.” We all have been there! Maybe you had a friend or you know someone now who is in a big DRAMA! The situation keeps getting worse and you can’t believe the stories… affairs, lying, addictions, bills not…
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Passion
“There is only one way to avoid criticism: do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing.” Aristotle OK we all know this right? And yet how many of us enter into the most intimate relationship with our partners “saying nothing.” For those who still can’t discuss sex, it is time to lift that veil. Requests in the…
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Say No to Waffling!!!
“It comes from saying No to 1000 things to make sure we don’t get on the wrong track or try to do to much.” Steve Jobs Are you beginning to see where we need our tools, ability to say No, ability to make requests, ability to speak our truth in order be a good leader, and in order to be…
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“If you want to be trusted, be honest. If you want to be honest, be true. If you want to be true, be yourself!”
If you are following along with us and you have begun your practices of saying No to what doesn’t support you, making requests for what does support you, you are on the way to authenticity. When you spend years doing and saying what you think others want you to do and say, you loose yourself.…
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I know of no more encouraging fact than the unquestionable ability of man to elevate his life by conscious endeavor. ~Henry David Thoreau
Keep making those Requests Making requests may seem like such a simple thing. Of course I do that you say to yourself. Check again it can be the root of many negative emotions especially resentment. I have a friend of many years who as a teenager was experimenting with a rocket that exploded in his…
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If your Ship doesn’t come in, swim out to it! Jonathan Winters
Make Those Requests Being in the world as your authentic self and living with dignity involves being able to make requests. Being able to ask for what you need is a very valuable tool. Knowing what you want to ask is important. Many people do not realize they do not make requests. If you…
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When You Say ‘Yes’ to Others, Make Sure You are not saying ‘No’ to Yourself! ~ Paul Coelho
Learning to be in the world as your authentic self can be scary, challenging, freeing, and eventually joyfully peaceful. What does this mean? How do I get there? Is this important? With everything that is going on in the world today, it is probably one of the most important tasks we can undertake to be…
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Be Honest with your Honey
We have been looking at some of the costs and probable contributing factors of people pleasing and now we are going to look at some examples. I have had many clients come into my office with a laundry list of complaints about his/her spouse. One client in particular was talking about divorce. When I asked if…
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