“If you want to be trusted, be honest. If you want to be honest, be true. If you want to be true, be yourself!”

If you are following along with us and you have begun your practices of saying No to what doesn’t support you, making requests for what does support you, you are on the way to authenticity. When you spend years doing and saying what you think others want you to do and say, you loose yourself. Suddenly you don’t know what you believe, what your opinions are, what makes you happy, what is not good for you and then we have a mess!

Research tells us you will be more successful in every area of your life the more you know yourself and the more others know you. But you say “if they know what I want they won’t give it to me” or “they will use it against me” and on and on. If you are in a situation like this it is toxic and I suggest you look at what you can do to change this situation.

I am not talking about information about you that is personal and only for your inner circle. I am speaking about what you will do or not do, what your opinions are, what you can be counted on for. If I am clear about what I am going to say No to, what help I require and what my honest assessment of the situation is, you will want to do business with me, you will want to have me in your circle of friends. If you think I am telling you what I think you want to hear, what a waste of time for both of us!

Honesty on both of our parts is a gift to any relationship! Start today.

“ A lot of people are afraid to tell the truth, to say no. That’s where toughness comes into play. Toughness is not being a bully. It is having Backbone. “ Robert Kiyosaki

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