Tag: Backbone Power
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NO is a Complete Sentence!
Last time, we introduced the importance of being able to say No. And for the purpose of this discussion, we are talking about people with equal status in the relationship. However, this does not include parent-child, teacher-student, or employer-employee. These relationships have different guidelines for dignity. The relationships we are talking about are people out…
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Santa Please Send My Christmas Backbone ASAP!
If you look at the tools in my book, you can design the Christmas holidays rather than be swept along in the disasters of the past. If you are one of those people who has been known to say, “I hate the holidays.” STOP and let’s start with new memories this year. Tough times never last,…
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Backbone Tools: From Codependency to Dignity
Backbone Tools: From Codependency to Dignity If you grew up in a family with lots of dysfunction e.g. alcohol, anger, illness physical or mental, Borderline/narcissistic (it is all about me), or any other phenomena other than adult people being normal loving parents to their children you may have developed the symptoms of codependency. A quick…
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How To Leave A Narcissist!
Today we are going to address leaving a narcissist emotionally and physically. Many people feel they cannot leave physically because of logistical concerns (e.g. money, no support system, housing, etc.). So leaving emotionally becomes vitally important. Knowledge is the best weapon you have in this scenario. Stop Asking why they keep doing it and start…
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Codependency And #MeToo — A New Way Forward!
Recap So, to recap Part One, we discussed our history as women as it relates to our relationship with men and how up until the middle to late 20th century we didn’t have laws to protect us from abuses. Women, along with children, were the property of men. Men could abuse us with no consequences. We also…
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Codependency And #MeToo — A Brief History Of Abuse!
Our History When we look at the history of women as it relates to men, we see that it has only been in the last 100 years that we were given rights. Before we had rights, women and children were the property of men. Men could do with us whatever they pleased, whenever they pleased.…
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5 Reasons You Need a Backbone to Divorce
No one plans on getting divorced when they get married, and yet that is a possible outcome for some. If you have spent your life mastering people pleasing, always saying yes, being diplomatic, and putting everyone else’s needs before yours, you will suffer tremendously if you are confronted with going through a divorce. The following…
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Robin Williams
“There are wounds that never show on the body that are deeper and more hurtful than anything that bleeds.” Laurell K Hamilton Mistral’s Kiss From the outside looking in, it is easy to say, but he had so much why couldn’t he find the help he needed. From the inside looking out, a lot of the…
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Say No To The Weight Of Your Past!
” Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life.” Steve Jobs Someone recently asked me the definition of Codependency, so let’s take a look at what we can see to help uncover this complicated phenomenon. The visual I have is someone who is suppose to be driving his own car in…
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In America You Are Allowed To Say NO!!!!!
“Two things define you; your patience when you have nothing, and your attitude when you have everything.” In my article on March 2, 2014 and chapter two in my book Backbone Power The Science of Saying No, I speak about the importance of being able to say No when you mean No. After listening to Elliot Rodger’s horrific video, I…