Tag: codependency
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The Insidious Killer in Recovery!
Living without a backbone sets you up for severe consequences in the domains of health, finances, career, friendships, romance, recovery and your dignity for starters. What does this mean? How can this be? It means you don’t know how to advocate for yourself and even worse you have insidious rationalizations on why you shouldn’t stand…
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Say No To The Weight Of Your Past!
” Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life.” Steve Jobs Someone recently asked me the definition of Codependency, so let’s take a look at what we can see to help uncover this complicated phenomenon. The visual I have is someone who is suppose to be driving his own car in…
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Say No to Bad Days!
Before you say, “YES” to something, ask yourself, “What am I saying NO to?” Have you ever said to yourself, I am having a bad day! What is that about? When we don’t take care of ourselves, we fill that compartment called resentment and one day watch out, it explodes. The explosion may have nothing to do with what just happened…
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Drama
“Being honest may not get you a lot of friends but it will get you the right ones.” We all have been there! Maybe you had a friend or you know someone now who is in a big DRAMA! The situation keeps getting worse and you can’t believe the stories… affairs, lying, addictions, bills not…
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“If you want to be trusted, be honest. If you want to be honest, be true. If you want to be true, be yourself!”
If you are following along with us and you have begun your practices of saying No to what doesn’t support you, making requests for what does support you, you are on the way to authenticity. When you spend years doing and saying what you think others want you to do and say, you loose yourself.…
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I know of no more encouraging fact than the unquestionable ability of man to elevate his life by conscious endeavor. ~Henry David Thoreau
Keep making those Requests Making requests may seem like such a simple thing. Of course I do that you say to yourself. Check again it can be the root of many negative emotions especially resentment. I have a friend of many years who as a teenager was experimenting with a rocket that exploded in his…
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When You Say ‘Yes’ to Others, Make Sure You are not saying ‘No’ to Yourself! ~ Paul Coelho
Learning to be in the world as your authentic self can be scary, challenging, freeing, and eventually joyfully peaceful. What does this mean? How do I get there? Is this important? With everything that is going on in the world today, it is probably one of the most important tasks we can undertake to be…
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Be Honest with your Honey
We have been looking at some of the costs and probable contributing factors of people pleasing and now we are going to look at some examples. I have had many clients come into my office with a laundry list of complaints about his/her spouse. One client in particular was talking about divorce. When I asked if…