Tag: Divorce
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The “Craziness” of People-Pleasing and How Did We Get Here?
What is this phenomenon “I need to make everyone in the world like me or People-Pleasing?” This is a tough concept because in one-way people-pleasers are nice to be around. If we look deeper we have to ask at what cost? People pleasing can affect both men and women. The history of women, however,…
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Etiquette For Divorced Parents Attending Their Child’s Events!
A child’s letter to his divorced parents. Dear Mom and Dad, The operative word here Mom and Dad is My events. You are a guest here and I ask you to act accordingly. My events include but are not limited to: 1. My teacher’s conferences. 2. My athletic events. 3. My musical recitals. 4. My…
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Resiliency: A Gift Of Divorce
I can remember years ago wondering if there was a bush I could hide under to stop the life lessons that were pounding me all at once. Forget bad things come in threes, this was multiple of threes. Most of us have had times in our lives where we want to yell “uncle”. Well throw…
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5 Reasons You Need a Backbone to Divorce
No one plans on getting divorced when they get married, and yet that is a possible outcome for some. If you have spent your life mastering people pleasing, always saying yes, being diplomatic, and putting everyone else’s needs before yours, you will suffer tremendously if you are confronted with going through a divorce. The following…
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Ways Divorced Parents Abandon Their Children
As we know from previous discussions about divorce, children are innocent victims. They often find themselves on a road filled with emotional land mines. When a child loses his in-tact family good, bad, or ugly as the family may be, he experiences abandonment. However the family system has been set up, the system is no…
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Healthy Communication Post- Divorce
Divorce is one of those life lessons that can derail us for a long time or produce a breakdown that leads to many breakthroughs. It is really our choice on whether we want to use our divorce to stagnant or grow. You may be sitting thinking, “I didn’t ask for this, I didn’t do anything…
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My Divorce is Final! (It sure doesn’t feel that way!)
If you have followed my guidelines including the most important, “fight for your marriage” and you find yourself divorced, it is time to reinvent yourself. If you have had an amicable divorce and you both are smart enough to know everyone’s recovery will be better if everyone lands on their feet, Congrats! Your first year…
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The Dark Side of Holidays and How to Make Them Light!
The divorce is final and now we have the challenge of the first year. The first year after your divorce and every year thereafter is going to contain holidays. As with all of our challenges in life, it is never the challenge, it is always our perception of the challenge. Years ago when I was…
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Your Child is not your Messenger! (by: Dr. Anne Brown PhD, RNCS)
One would think after going through a difficult, and many times nasty divorce from a contentious (narcissistic, borderline, psychopathic, or sociopathic for example) partner he/she might be done with you and want to move on. You will probably find this will not be the case especially if there are children involved. One reason is the…
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When “Make Nice” Doesn’t Work In Divorce (by: Dr. Anne Brown RNCS)
Unfortunately, there are several types of people who are going to be contentious in a divorce and they have to be handled differently. And many personnel involved in the divorce process do not prepare or educate the spouse of a contentious person correctly. If you have ever been told or if you suspect you are…
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