Tag: people pleasing
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The Agony of Saying No!
“Don’t give up! The beginning is always the hardest!” What stands in the way of you saying No? For some of us, just having the awareness starts us on a healthy path. We can begin to interrupt the automatic pattern of immediately saying Yes. We find tools to trick our body into saying nothing versus…
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Codependency and Narcissists: What Could Possibly Go Wrong? (Part I)
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For this discussion, we are going to stick with our understanding of codependency as a system of distortions that exists on a continuum. Codependents learn personality traits that interfere with knowing themselves self and others. The people-pleasing aspect of codependency might drive the ignoring of who we are trying to please. The focus of wanting…
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The “Craziness” of People-Pleasing and How Did We Get Here?
What is this phenomenon “I need to make everyone in the world like me or People-Pleasing?” This is a tough concept because in one-way people-pleasers are nice to be around. If we look deeper we have to ask at what cost? People pleasing can affect both men and women. The history of women, however,…
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NO is a Complete Sentence!
Last time, we introduced the importance of being able to say No. And for the purpose of this discussion, we are talking about people with equal status in the relationship. However, this does not include parent-child, teacher-student, or employer-employee. These relationships have different guidelines for dignity. The relationships we are talking about are people out…
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Why is Giving Up People Pleasing So Difficult?
This question fascinates me because I have observed over many years many journeys where people struggle with this task (myself included.) Let’s take a look at some of my speculations. See what your thoughts might be on why People Pleasing is so challenging. Our History and Teachings For women, it is easy to look back…
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Say No To The Weight Of Your Past!
” Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life.” Steve Jobs Someone recently asked me the definition of Codependency, so let’s take a look at what we can see to help uncover this complicated phenomenon. The visual I have is someone who is suppose to be driving his own car in…
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Say No to Bad Days!
Before you say, “YES” to something, ask yourself, “What am I saying NO to?” Have you ever said to yourself, I am having a bad day! What is that about? When we don’t take care of ourselves, we fill that compartment called resentment and one day watch out, it explodes. The explosion may have nothing to do with what just happened…
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Drama
“Being honest may not get you a lot of friends but it will get you the right ones.” We all have been there! Maybe you had a friend or you know someone now who is in a big DRAMA! The situation keeps getting worse and you can’t believe the stories… affairs, lying, addictions, bills not…
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“If you want to be trusted, be honest. If you want to be honest, be true. If you want to be true, be yourself!”
If you are following along with us and you have begun your practices of saying No to what doesn’t support you, making requests for what does support you, you are on the way to authenticity. When you spend years doing and saying what you think others want you to do and say, you loose yourself.…
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Be Honest with your Honey
We have been looking at some of the costs and probable contributing factors of people pleasing and now we are going to look at some examples. I have had many clients come into my office with a laundry list of complaints about his/her spouse. One client in particular was talking about divorce. When I asked if…
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