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Codependency and Narcissists: Let’s Make Something Go Right! (Part II)

May 8, 2022

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in Codependency, Dr. Anne Brown, Health, Mental Health, Narcissist, Rationalization, Recovery, Relationship, Self-Help, Sociopath, Wellness

In Part I, we discussed how the codependent is a perfect victim for the narcissists. We discussed our working definition of codependency: a system of distortions that exists on a continuum. Codependents learn personality traits that interfere with knowing themselves self and others. Codependents take care of others, often ignoring or tolerating their abuse, avoiding…

Codependency and Narcissists: What Could Possibly Go Wrong? (Part I)

May 7, 2022

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Dr. Anne Brown

in Codependency, Dr. Anne Brown, Health, Mental Health, Recovery, Relationship, Self-Help, Wellness

For this discussion, we are going to stick with our understanding of codependency as a system of distortions that exists on a continuum. Codependents learn personality traits that interfere with knowing themselves self and others. The people-pleasing aspect of codependency might drive the ignoring of who we are trying to please. The focus of wanting…

The “Craziness” of People-Pleasing and How Did We Get Here?

Apr 19, 2022

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Dr. Anne Brown

in Addiction, Codependency

What is this phenomenon “I need to make everyone in the world like me or People-Pleasing?” This is a tough concept because in one-way people-pleasers are nice to be around. If we look deeper we have to ask at what cost? People pleasing can affect both men and women. The history of women, however,…

NO is a Complete Sentence!

Mar 3, 2022

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Dr. Anne Brown

in Codependency, Self-Help

Last time, we introduced the importance of being able to say No. And for the purpose of this discussion, we are talking about people with equal status in the relationship. However, this does not include parent-child, teacher-student, or employer-employee. These relationships have different guidelines for dignity. The relationships we are talking about are people out…

Backbone Tools: From Codependency to Dignity

Sep 18, 2020

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Dr. Anne Brown

in Abuse, Addiction, Codependency, Dr. Anne Brown, Mental Health

Backbone Tools: From Codependency to Dignity If you grew up in a family with lots of dysfunction e.g. alcohol, anger, illness physical or mental, Borderline/narcissistic (it is all about me), or any other phenomena other than adult people being normal loving parents to their children you may have developed the symptoms of codependency. A quick…

Bullying And The Codependent Part IV: “The Smelly Turd in the Pretty Package”

Sep 5, 2019

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Dr. Anne Brown

in Codependency

I have been working in the field of abuse for years. When I get discouraged because of the stories of injustice I hear, it helps me remember the history of the laws and abuse. I assess bullying as a form of abuse. Our first child abuse laws had many starts and stops; they did not…

The Female Bully And The Codependent Part III: “The Smelly Turd in the Pretty Package”

Sep 1, 2019

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Dr. Anne Brown

in Abuse, Codependency

Even though it is interesting to note that recent reports state female workplace bullying is on the increase, causing more people to say they would rather work for a man, we are going to stay focused on the female family serial bully. I believe bullies know they are bullying. I believe you don’t wake up one…

The Female Bully And The Codependent Part II: “A Smelly Turd in a Pretty Package”

Aug 30, 2019

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Dr. Anne Brown

in Abuse, Codependency, Uncategorized

In Part One, we discussed some characteristics of the serial female family bully, the way she bullies, her targets and her end game. We looked at some interesting characteristics also seen with the codependent; poor self-esteem and inability to speak her truth or express her anger. In Part Two we are going to give you…

The Female Bully and the Codependent Part I: “A Smelly Turd in a Pretty Package”

Aug 30, 2019

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Dr. Anne Brown

in Abuse, Codependency, Uncategorized

Physical/aggressive bullying is easy to identify. We can all see the broken bones, blood, and bruises. This type of bullying is most often chosen by men. As a therapist, it is usually pretty easy for me to ask certain questions to get the information that physical abuse is indeed happening. The real work comes when…

Sex and Codependents: What Could Possibly Go Wrong?

Jan 8, 2018

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Dr. Anne Brown

in Codependency, Dating, Divorce, Dr. Anne Brown, Marriage, Mental Health, Rationalization, Recovery, Relationship, Self-Help

So many women I interviewed when writing my book reported saying yes to sex just to get the sex over with and have the person go away. Others reported saying yes to sex to have the person like them. Others reported gaining weight so they wouldn’t have to say no to dating and sex. Many…

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